Perspectives on Grieving
Here are some things to keep in mind as you talk with your children following tragic events. We cannot avoid the tension in the air and the fact that many of our children will probably know about an event before we figure out what to say to them, thanks to 24/7 news and social media. So while we gather our own thoughts and process our own emotions, we must also figure out what to say to children and teens, and how to be supportive of them. Here are some suggestions to follow as you discuss these events with youth.
So Was I Experiencing Grief -- or Something Else?By Bari AdelmanMy mom's Alzheimer's Disease seemed to sneak up on our family. We weren't sure exactly when it hit, but month by month it got worse and worse. Six years ago, as the disease was snowballing, I wrote an essay to describe the experience. Here are some excerpts:My heart hurts. I just got off the phone with my sweet, darling mom. I have the…
Recently, my cousin asked me, with sincerity and care, “What was it like to be raised in a single- parent home?” I must admit the question took me a bit by surprise, and despite being a mature adult, I had to reassess my sense of family.
“Take care!” We say that to others all the time. We want those who we care about to take good care of themselves. But do we, especially those of us who are caregivers, know how to “take” care?
All of us have said the wrong thing to someone who is grieving. Maya Angelou says, “When we know better, we do better.” If you say the wrong thing, apologize and remember that your loving presence is more powerful than any right or wrong thing you might say.
This year on 9/11 Imagine had the privilege and opportunity to participate in Cantor Fitzgerald’s annual Charity Day in which Cantor and its affiliates, BGC Partners and GFI Group commemorate their 658 friends and colleagues and 61 Eurobrokers employees who perished on September 11, 2001. Each year on September 11th Cantor donates 100% of their global revenues to the Cantor Fitzgerald Relief Fund and selected charities around the world. This year, Imagine was selected to participate, and was fortunate to have actor Kimiko Glenn of Orange is the New Black, as our celebrity ambassador. Since its inception, Charity Day has raised and distributed over $147 million globally.
Listen without judging. Tell the truth. Offer choices. This article gets it right in how to help your kids cope with loss.
Traumatized Children Finally Getting the Attention They Need and Deserve - Oprah Shines a Spotlight on Childhood Trauma
The death of a parent is a trauma for a child or teen. A parent is a child’s first attachment, first love, the person they depend on for their very survival and often it is the very person to whom they would turn to for support after a loss.
My grandfather died when I was 2 years old. I never met him. The only things I have of his are two pictures – which are actually my mother’s – 2 black and white pictures. The first is of a tall, lanky man, dressed smartly - if not oddly formal - standing in the middle of a yard with the hot Caribbean sun beating down on him; the second, a close-up portrait. That was it. All imagined interactions, hoped-for futures, dreamed of backstories, stemmed from these 2 pictures.
By Mandi Zucker, MSW. Here at Imagine we hope this show sparks conversation in every household about loss (whether it be a death or some other kind of loss) and how to cope with all of the feelings that come with it.