Our Blog
Perspectives on Grieving

Americans Don't Plan on Dying, by Paul Spector, M.D.

[Our goal in sharing articles such as this on death and dying in America, is to further our mission of normalizing grief in our society and encouraging families to "have the conversation" as a way to  reduce fear and stress, open communication and prepare families for end of life decision making. It can actually improve the quality of life.”

"Aunt Jane Wouldn't Want You To Cry"

Don’t leave me!” the little girl with pink ribbons in her hair sobbed as her aunt and young cousin said good-bye to her at the Denver airport. I was returning from a conference in Colorado and was sitting next to the little girl and her grandmother.

Reflections on a Shooting Range Death, From One Who Knows, by Gregory Orr

"In my experience, when something like this takes place, people in a family are often willing to take on responsibility and guilt rather than admit something even scarier: that accidents happen; that even the most ordinary among us live in a world of risk and randomness that we don’t control. Sometimes, blaming ourselves feels safer than this realization that the world is an unpredictable and even dangerous place. But self-blaming and shame isolate and shrivel the human spirit.

Social Media and Grief

Meghan O’Rourke, author of “The Long Goodbye” gets it right again.

Her absence is like the sky

The act of living is different all through. Her absence is like the sky, spread all over everything.” C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

My father died when I was 14. This is the only story I can ever tell. By Riese Bernard

My father died when I was 14. My father died when I was 14. My father died when I was 14. Heart attack. While he was running. Training for a marathon. Yes, it was unexpected. Yes, just out of the blue. Yeah, just about the worst thing that could have ever happened, just really the absolute worst, nothing worse will ever happen to me! (I will laugh at this part, a little. To make sure you know it’s okay, that I can think about this thing and laugh at the same time.)

Talk, move, play, write. Talking with Teens About Coping with Loss

Last year we met with about 60 teens from Holy Trinity CYO program.  We left feeling inspired and full of hope about their resilience and ability to cope with tough times.

I am dying, but life is beautiful

This is a moving article about the importance of talking about illness with your family and kids and the importance of getting support. Read about one family's courageous battle with the final stages of Ovarian Cancer.

"She Only Lost Her Father"

A mother once said to me, “(My child) only lost her father, I lost my husband!” This is understandable because we think children cannot grieve to the same depth we do as adults.

Transformation at Imagine through Peer Support, Education and Volunteering

Many know of Imagine as the place to go when someone dies. What many don't know is that we also provide rich and transformative educational workshops in the community -- in schools, workplaces and agencies. Audiences include First Responders, agency volunteers, school staff, company employees, students of all ages, athletic coaches, troop leaders, Financial Advisors working with elderly clients, etc.. Our education and outreach programs are designed to create resilient communities able to support all those who grieve during times of loss and life transition. For more information you can reach us at learn@imaginenj.org.