Perspectives on Grieving
This past weekend our community suffered a loss – an unexpected and devastating loss, of a young woman, Terry DiFalco.
It is real, and it is painful, and modern medicine has proven it.
“Tears are of extreme relevance for human nature. We cry because we need other people." Dr. Ad Vingerhoets
Maria Housden's article in "We Need Not Walk Along," the national magazine of The Compassionate Friends, described as “a support group in print,” featuring articles by and for parents, siblings, and grandparents who are grieving the death of a child in their family.
How can we cope and take care of ourselves in the midst of trauma and loss. As we move through this holiday season with all of its expectations and commitments, please remember to be gentle with yourself and practice good self care.
So what happens when someone dies? Do family photos become terrible reminders of the person who has died, or symbols of the love and support that the person provided? We think the latter....
My mother died on October 23, 2008. A month later I spent that first Thanksgiving without her at my godmother Ginny’s house with her family. I had known Ginny my whole life and her three daughters, all around my age, were like cousins to me. They were all there too, one of them with her own three daughters.
There is so much pressure to be happy in our culture, especially at the holidays. We are supposed to have a Happy Thanksgiving, a “merry little Christmas” or a Happy Hanukah. But grief doesn’t take a holiday.
Wear Blue! Tomorrow November 17th is National Children's Grief Awareness Day. Please wear blue, and contact Imagine for how you can raise awareness, support grieving children, or get free resources for your school.
An important life lesson we want for all children is about learning how to be a winner and learning how to be a loser. Losing is more than just not winning, it's something that if done thoughtfully, can be transformative.